The Bitch and the Idiot

Do either of these roles resonate with you?

PARTNER 1

You feel overburdened by the demands of your shared responsibilities. You might feel like you just can’t rely on your partner to get things done right and on time. Additionally, you aren’t feeling seen or heard by your partner, you don’t feel particularly loved, and you don’t like the harsh person you have become when your partner is around. You know you aren’t connecting the way you used to, but you have no idea how to sort through all of the resentment and anger in order to reconnect.

PARTNER 2

Or maybe you are the other partner, the one who just can’t seem to do anything right in the eyes of your spouse. At your job, you are smart and capable, but the minute you get home, well, it’s as if the person you have chosen to spend your life with thinks you are a complete idiot. You often feel criticized and your partner seems constantly exasperated with you. You are pretty tired of being “in trouble.” You’re starting to feel like you’re less of a partner and more of a child, but you have no idea how to get out of this mess.

If so, you are not alone! The “bitch and idiot” dynamic is common. Together we can examine the wounds that get poked in your relationship so you can figure out how to treat them. Instead of simply applying BandAids, we will get to the heart of the wounds themselves, examine the underlying causes of the sore spots so they can actually heal. You’ll learn how to loosen the grip of the dynamic that causes both of you so much pain and how to regain a balance in life functionality that allows you to reduce resentment, reconnect to your partner as a team, and live more in accordance with your values.